Mengapa Kita Perlu Utamakan IbuBapa selepas Allah S.W.T Dan Rasul ?

 Salam Sahabat Semua, semoga hari ini Indah buat kita semua. Dalam saat dunia bersabar menghadapi dugaan Pandemik Covid 19 sekarang apa kata kita meluangkan masa dengan membaca. 

Ingin dikongsikan di sini petikan nasihat dari buku yang saya baca yang cukup memberi kesan kepada hati. Dalam mencari keredhaan Allah S.W.T yang mencipta dan memberi ujian semoga kita mendapat kesabaran dan keredhaanNya dalm menyucikan hati mencapai "Qolbun Salim"..

Islam Itu Indah dalam segala aspek kehidupan dan akhirat, memupuk keperibadian umat mencapai kebahagian hidup bermasyarakat.

hayati antara nasihat yang dipetik dalam konteks perhubungan kita dengan ibu bapa sebagai amanah yang di beri oleh Allah S.W.T.

Dalam Konteks perhubungan kita sebagai anak dan juga Ibu Bapa kepada anak kita tentu ramai yang telah mengalami berbagai dugaan pahit dan manis. Semoga nasihat yang mendalam dari buku ini berserta hadis dan dalil dapat memberi kita hidayah dalm mencapai matlamat dunia dan akhirat.

ingatlah bahawasanya dunia hanya sekadar tempat persinggahan (R&R) dalam permusafiran kita. Perjalanan dunia ada titik noktah manakala perjalanan akhirat adalah sesuatu kekal abadi. 

ihsan PTS publishing

Utamakan IbuBapa selepas Allah S.W.T Dan Rasul

 

Kita semua adalah seorang anak, yang lahir hasil daripada perkahwinan ibu dan bapa. Meskipun sekarang ibu ataupun bapa sudah tiada, namun buat selama lamanya kita tetap seorang anak kepada mereka. Kematian mereka tidak sesekali menghilangkan gelaran kita sebagai seorang anak.

Masih ingatkah kita, pada zaman kecil ataupun remaja, bagaimana sikap dan akhlak diri ketika berbicara bersama ibu bapa ?

Tentu semua daripada kita dahulu pernah menhentakkan kaki dan berlalu pergi daripada mendengar celoteh ibu bapa. Ataupun tentu sahaja dahulu kita pernah bercakap kasar dengan ibu bapa sebagai tanda protes selepas kita dimarahi oleh mereka.

Mungkin itu 10 tahun lalu, dan sekarang kita sudah berubah dan mula matang. Tentu kita tidak lagi mengulangi kesalahan itu sekarang ini. Namun, jikalau ada sesiapa yang masih berkelakuan sedemikian dan masih merasakan bahawa semua tindakan itu boleh dilakukan, ada beberapa pesanan yang ingin penulis sampaikan.

Jikalau ibu bapa sedang bercakap kepada kita, jangan sesekali kita melangkah pergi ataupun sekadar mendengar sambil berjalan. Adab yang sepatutnya kita lakukan adalah mendekati dan menghayati apa yang dituturkan oleh mereka. Itu adalah tuntutan agama yang sebenar.

Mendengar sampai berjalan menunjukkan ketidaksopanan dan kurangnya akhlak dalam diri. Ibu bapa bukannya manusia yang asing dalam hidup. Mereka adalah insane yang bertarung nyawa melahirkan dan memelihara kita hingga ke hari ini.

Walaupun apa yang dicakapkan oleh ibu bapa tidak disukai ataupun sedikit kasar, kita dak harus membelakangkan mereka. Berbicaralah dengan ucapan yang sehalus mungkin supaya kita tidak sesekali melukakan hati insan yang sudah membesarkan kita.

Tetap menjadi kewajipan anak-anak bagi memenuhi adab-adab terhadap ibu dan bapanya, kerana tiada hak yang lebih besar utnuk ditunai dan dipenuhi selepas allah S.W.T dan Rasul, melainkan hak kepada ibu bapa.

Diharapkan bermula hari ini kita tidak lagi bersikap dingin kepada ibu bapa. Sentiasa ukirkan senyuman yang paling manis di hadapan orang tua, meskipun kadang-kadang kita masih lagi dimarahi oleh mereka disebabkan kesilapan kecil.

Percayalah, hari ini kita mungkin rimas dengan leteran mereka, namun kelak kita akan merinduinya. Ketika itu, kita tidak lagi mampu mendengarnya kerana mereka sudah pergi meninggalkan kita di dunia ini.

Paling malang, berapa ramai anak-anak yang mula menyisihkan ibu bapa mereka hanya disebabkan beberapa masalah tertentu. Akuilah, manusia itu tidak lepas daripada melakukan kesalahan, namun jangan sesekali memandang hina wajah mereka apatah lagimembiarkan ibu bapa tanpa langsung mempedulikannya.

Ada juga sesetengah ibu bapa yang tidak berkelakuan baik dan tidak melayan anak-anak mereka dengan sebaiknya. Biarkan kesalahan itu dinilai oleh Allah S.W.T menghukum adalah kepunyaan Allah S.W.T. Jangan pula anak-anak yang menghukum mereka tanpa pernah memikirkan jasa mereka kepada kita.

Berbaktilah kepada ibu bapa kita sekiranya mereka masih hidup. Sekiranya mereka sudah meninggal dunia, maka teruskan berdoa semoga mereka sentiasa dihujani titisan rahmat. Tugas sebagai anak tetap wajib dijalankan. Berdoa semoga Allah S.W.T mengampuni dan merahmati kedua ibu bapa di atas apa yang mereka lakukan.

Sesungguhnya kepayahan melahir dan membesarkan anak-anak tidak terhitung susahnya. Tiada kesalahan dan kesilapan ibu bapa yang layak dihukum jikalau anak- anak waras memikirkan kesusahan itu. Bayangkan keadaan ibu yang bertarung nyawa melahirkan nyawa melahirkan anak dan  bapa yang bagaikan gila menanti suara tangisan anak di bilik kelahiran. Hanya yang tidak berakal menghukum ibu bapa mereka.

Mungkin ibu bapa pernah melakukan kesilapan terhadap anak-anak. Namun tanpa kasih sayang ibu bapa, anak-anak tidak akan lahir ke dunia ini. Sesungguhnya, pengorbanan anak-anak tidak sesekali dapat mengatasi pengorbanan ibu bapa, meskipun anak-anak dipanjangkan usia untuk hidup 1,000 tahun bagi berkorban demi ibu bapa mereka.

semoga ilmu yang disampaikan dapat memberi manfaat kepada kita semua. 

terima kasih pihak pengarang tuan Nor Mohamad Adli Rosli dan tuan Mohd Khairi Ismail dalam mengusahakan naskah kecil yang bernilai ini. tidak lupa juga kepada pihak PTS publisher dalam usaha mengimarahkan kepada masyarakat.

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Ahli Keluarga DiUtamakan Wahai Puteri Ku Sayang

 

 Baru baru ini aku terbuka hati membaca sebuah buku yang diterbitkan oleh PTS publisher,

naskah nipis sebagai bacaan ringan ini membri kesan yang mendalam kepada diriku. 

Inilah nasihat buat hati yang bernilai bagi diriku untuk dikongsikan didalam jurnal kami. semoga ikatan kasih sayang kekeluargaan berkekalan dalam menjalani hidup sebagai hamba yang kecil di dunia yang penuh ujian ini.

Sudilah menyelami antara nasihat yang hendak kami sampaikan. Dari penyampaian oleh Habib Ali Zaenal Abidin naskah bertajuk "Nasihat Buat Hati"

Alhamdulillah dengan izin ilahi dapat juag aku menghadiahkan naskah kecil ini kepada insan yang tercinta.

Utamakan Ahli Keluarga

Suatu ketika, Nabi Muhammad S.A.W berhenti rehat di sebuah kebunyang dimiliki oleh seorang lelaki daripada golongan Ansar yang digelar dengan nama Talhah. Kebunnya begitu luas dan padanya terdapat sumber air yang sering dijadikan penduduknya sebagai air minuman. Kedudukan kebun ini dahulunya dekat dengan Masjid Nabawi. Dan kebiasaannya apabila Nabi singgah di kebun berkenaan, Nabi akan meminum air yang berada dalam kawasan kebun itu.

Allah S.W.T mengurniakan kebun yang subur kepada Talhah. Bukan itu sahaja. Air bersih yang mengalir dalam kebunnya itu juga mempunyai rasa yang sungguh lazat, tidak sama dengan air yang mengalir dari sumur di kebun milik orang lain yang berada di sekitarnya. Dikatakan air dari sumur miliknya itu begitu jernih dan menyegarkan.

Pada suatu hari, Talhah menghampiri Nabi Muhammad S.A.W dan berkata kepada Baginda, “ Wahai Rasulullah, saya adalah lelaki yang paling kaya dalam kalangan masyarakat Ansar. Dalam kesemua harta yang saya miliki, kebun yang memiliki sumur air yang kamu minum ini adalah yang paling saya sayangi. Maka kerana seruan Tuhan, dengan ini saya mewakafkan kebun pada jalan Allah. Jadi sebagai seorang ketua bagi kami, kamu berhak menentukan siapa yang selayaknya mengambil manfaat dari kebun ini, wahai Rasulullah”.

·        Akhlak Para Sahabat

 Betapa indahnya akhlak para sahabat. Sifat pemurah dan dermawan mereka tidak ditandingi oleh sesiapa pun. Mereka tidak berkira – kira untuk bersedekah ataupun mewakafkan harta kepunyaan mereka. Paling menakjubkan, mereka pasti member dan menyumbang harta yang paling mereka sayangi untuk Islam.

 

Sekarang, masih adakah sikap sebegitu? Hakikat manusia sekarang, semakin saying, semakin disimpan harta itu. Jangan harap hendak disedekah kepada orang lain. Yang disedekahkan itu pasti bahagian lebihan ataupun yang kurang disayangi, begitulah kebiasannya. Penulis tidak maksudkan semua orang, tetapi kebanyakannya begitu. Lihat sahaja pakaian yang disedekahkan kepada fakir miskin, koyak di situ, tampal di sini, sedangkan baju baru disimpan sahaja di dalam almari.

 

Penulis tidak mengatakan salah menderma barang sebegitu. Yang ingin penulis terangkan adalah perbezaan sifat dermawan para sahabat dan sifat dermawan manusia pada masa kini. Para sahbat berlumba-lumba mahu jadi penderma yang baik di sisi Allah S.W.T. Sebab itu mereka tidak kedekut ataupun berkira-kira bagi menderma apa sahaja, meskipun harta kepunyaan itu sungguh mereka sayangi. Itu adalah sebaik-sebaik sedekah dan wakaf dalam Islam.

"Selepas mengambil kira nilai keikhlasan dalam memberi, penderma yang terbaik adalah mereka yang sanggup menderma harta yang paling baik, paling elok dan paling berharga kepunyaannya, meskipun ia hanya sekecil buah tamar".

·         Yang Paling Berhak

Mendengar ucapan tersebut, Nabi Muhammad S.A.W dalam keadaan penuh ketenangan seolah-olah mengetahui dan dapat merasakan bahawa masih terdapat sesuatu yang menjadi kekurangan dalam diri Talhah. Dan pasti sahaja segala keputusan dan arahan Nabi Muhammad S.A.W kepadanya akan dituruti sehabis baik. Ini kerana, Nabi adalah sebaik-baik insane yang diutuskan bagi memberi petunjuk kepada umatnya perihal apa yang terbaik untuk mereka lakukan.

 

            Kemudian Nabi menjawab, “Sesungguhnya aku sudah mendengar kesemua yang dibicarakan oleh kamu. Seperti kata-kata kamu sebentar tadi, aku mempunyai peluang bagi menentukan siapa yang menentukan siapa yang berhak ke atas kebun ini. Maka dengan itu wahai Talhah, orang yang berhak ke atas kebun yang kamu sayangi ini adalah ahli keluarga kamu.”

 

·         Mengapa Keluarga Perlu Diutamakan?

Dalam Islam, kita diajar supaya mendahulukan ahli keluarga dan kaum kerabat dalam memberikan pertolongan. Ini kerana, dalam keluarga sendiri hanya kita yang lebih mengetahui siapa yang lebih memerlukan dan siapa yang lebih susah berbanding orang lain. Sekiranya setiap daripada kita memahami nilai ini, pasti nasib setiap keluarga akan terbela dan terjaga.

            Ukhwah antara keluarga boleh diibaratkan seperti segenggam benih yang diikat dalam karung guni. Hanya benih dalam ikatan itu mengetahui benih mana yang sedang subur membesar ataupun akan rosak dan mati. Amat tidak masuk akal sekiranya dibiarkan benih yang tidak subur untuk terus mati kekeringan, kerana ingin membantu benih dalam karung lain yang belum tentu semua jangka hayatnya.

            Pendek kata, keluarga sendiri, hanya kita lebih mengetahui keadaan mereka berbanding orang lain. Susah dan sedih mereka hanya kita yang lebih memahami. Maka, jangan pula kita menanti orang lain datang menolong mereka tanpa kita terlebih dahulu cuba menolong. Siapa yang akan membantu, bila bantuan akan muncul? Ya, kita tidak tahu.

            Jangan salah faham, bukan bermakna agama Islam tidak menggalakkan umatnya menolong mereka yang bukan darah daging mereka, bukan begitu. Cuma ia membawa maksud, sekiranya ada dalam keluarga ataupun saudara-mara yang mengalami kesusahan, maka kita terlebih dahulu yang wajib dan bertanggungjawab menolong mereka.

            Adakah kita sanggup membiarkan mereka berjalan ke sana dan ke mari mengetuk pintu rumah orang lain yang bukan darah daging mereka bagi meminta bantuan, sedangkan ahli keluarganya sendiri yang tinggal dalam kesenangan dan keselesaan hidup, hanya menggoyangkan kaki? Dalam Islam perkara sebegini tidak sepatutnya terjadi dan ia adalah satu kesalahan yang besar dalam institusi kekeluargaan.

            Tidak salah bagi menolong orang lain. Cuma, rajin-rajinkan diri bertanya khabar dan bertanya hal ehwal saudara sekeluarga dengan kita. Indahnya ajaran Islam, betapa makmur dan bahagianya institusi keluarga sekiranya perkara ini menjadi prinsip yang sebati dalam hidup semua umat islam.

            Selain itu, menjadi keutamaan bagi setiap Muslim supaya mendahulukan ahli keluarganya kerana ia dapat menutup pintu cemburu dan hasad dengki yang dapat membawa kepada jalan perpisahan antara keluarga. Masakan tidak, pasti ahli keluarga yang terlebih dahulu berasa sedih dan kecewa sekiranya mereka tidak dapat berasa apa-apa pemberian daripada kita walaupun sedikit, kerana sikap kita yang lebih mengutamakan orang lain.

            Ya, sekiranya ahli keluarga sudah senang dan juga kaya-raya tidak mengapa. Mungkin mereka tidak mudah berasa hati dengan perkara ini, namun bagaimana sekiranya mereka miskin dan begitu memerlukan? Bukankah kita sudah berlaku zalim kepada mereka kerana sanggup mengenepikan mereka yang lebih memerlukan?

            Utamakan kebajikan mereka. Kadangkala bagi ahli keluarga kita yang berharta, mereka tidak pun menginginkan pemberian harta ataupun wang. Cukup sekadar hadiah ikhlas sebagai tanda ingatan. Jangan pula ada dalam kalangan kita yang salah faham dan bersikap berlebih-lebihan dalam berbuat baik kepada ahli keluarga, hingga saudara Islam lain yang benar-benar memerlukan pula tidak dibantu. Fahami konsep dan prinsip ini dengan sebaiknya.

            Juga, jangan pula menutup hak orang lain semata-mata bagi melebihkan ahli keluarga sendiri, kerana ia langsung tidak menepati tuntutan dan keinginan Islam. Siapa yang melakukannya sudah bercanggah dengan ajaran yang sebenarnya. Sekiranya benar hak itu kepunyaan orang lain, maka jangan diceroboh dan diambil atas nama melakukan kebajikan kepada ahli keluarga.

semoga kisah nasihat yang dikongsikan ini dapat memberi nilai kasih sayang antara kami sekeluarga.

akhir kata sejulung terima kasih kepada saudara Nur Mohamad Adli Rosli yang memberi kebenaran atas perkongsian nasihat yang amat berguna ini.

semoga kekal abadi didalam ingatan kami.

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Kucing Shorthair keluarga ku Si Lulu Amani

Hi and salam. Lama tak post kat sini. Sepanjang tempoh ni banyak yang berlaku dan Alhamdulillah semua dipermudahkan olehnya. Oh ya blog ni memang caca marba sikit. Kejap post in english kejap bahasa pasar. The purpose have been change. Rasanya lepas ni bahasa pasar lebih mudah. post kali ni panjang dari biasa...boring jugak ye. ala ala cerpen.

Post kali ni berkenaan ahli baru keluarga kami. Ini memang lain sikit seperti ditakdirkan. Berlaku pada 8 julai 2016 mlm tu saya dan wife really not in the mood . Selepas ambil anak dari rumah mak dalam menyusuri lorong yang gelap, tetiba sebuah teksi agak laju memasuki simpang menuju terus ke arah kereta kami. Alhamdulillah kedua dua kereta sempat emergency brake. Lebih kurang 5 minit juga la kedua dua kami tak bergerak . Terkejut jugak berdebar hati berzikir panjang saya. Kemudian teksi tersebut bergerak ke laluannya kembali dan terus berlalu. Saya kembali tenang. Apabila nak bergerak tetiba saya perasan seekor anak bulus kecil di hadapan. Saya bergerak ke kanan perlahan,anak bulus tersebut ikut ke kanan. Saya ke kiri dia pun ke kiri. Saya undurkan kereta anak bulus tersebut menghampiri. Ahh sudah nampak gayanya anak bulus ni baru tahu berjalan. Isteri dan anak anak memujuk saya turun melihat keadaan anak bulus tersebut. Hmmm kami ni mana pernah bela kucing. Ni dah hampir pukul 10 apa pulak la ni . Badan dah penat. Saya mengambil keputusan keluar mengenepikan anak bulus tersebut. Keluar dari kereta saya perasan seekor tubuh anak bulus berwarna oren terkujur di laluan sebelah. Alamak sedihnya. Saya teringat ada hadis ttg menanam kucing jika mati. Tapi tengah mlm ni. Kiri jalan belukar , kanan jalan rumah kosong. Mana pulak dtng anak kucing berdua ni. Apa boleh buat , saya mengangkat tubuh bulus oren yang mati tu dan letakkan di tepi jalan atas rumput. Nak korek lubang memang tak ada peralatan. Hmm yang lagi seekor ni saya ambil masuk ke dalam kereta. Setelah berbincang dengan wife kami patah balik ke rumah mak dan ingin letakkan di situ tapi tak berdaya. So, cadangan kami esok hantar ke spca. Kami terus cari kedai pets yang masih buka akhirnya ketemu satu kedai. Uncle owner tu cerita macam macam pasal anak kucing. Katanya biasa mmg susah nak survive tanpa ibu. Buang kat pasar pun belum tentu survive. Ambil sedikit nasihat dari uncle tu kami beli wet food dan uncle tu belanja satu.

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Esok paginya kami memulakan misi untuk menghantar ke Spca. Sebelum pergi saya bersihkan mata anak bulus ni sebab macam sakit mata , tahi mata banyak. Dalam perjalanan ke Spca ampang wife terlintas untuk bawa ke vet dulu . Kami pun singgah ke vets di taman melawati. Kena register nama la pulak. Terus letak nama LuLu. Vets pun menjalankan tugas membersihkan kutu dan sebagainya. Katanya anak bulus ni demam selsema. Kalau hantar ke Spca pun belum tentu terima sebab anak kucing terbiar memang banyak. Pendekkan cerita kami berpatah balik ke rumah dan decide untuk menjaganya sehingga sihat. Ini lah dia si Lulu Amani. 

Sekarang tanpa kami sedari sudah hampir 4 bulan Lulu Amani bersama kami dan kami memiliki pets yang pertama. Lebih tepat lagi ahli keluarga baru.  

Sebelum mengambil keputusan nak jaga tu memang banyak hal yang saya dan isteri pertimbangkan. Dalam research yang kami buat memang banyak juga kebaikan menjaga kucing . Antaranya dari segi kesihatan iaitu terapi kepada hypertension, masalah kardiovaskular , terapi kesabaran dapat membantu untuk membaca.. hmm banyak juga yang positif. Iyelah kucing ni kan antara binatang kesayangan nabi Muhammad SAW. kucing Nabi bernama mueeza. Maqasid 'Ammah,ikut syariah dan sunnah pasti untuk kebaikan.

Banyak juga perkara syariah dan hadis yang perlu dipatuhi seperti menjaga keharmonian kejiranan. Kucing ni tidak mukallaf macam kita . Apa yang dia buat kencing bersepah ke atau bau najis yang mengganggu jiran kita tuannya akan menanggung dosa. Itu kena jaga. Dari segi menjaga ibadah pula tentang hukum bulu kucing. Ada hadis mengatakan tidak sah solat jika ada bulu kucing pada pakaian, ada kelonggarannya dalam salah satu ceramah ustaz azhar idrus. Pun nak kena jaga. Bab najisnya juga kategori bukan najis berat (mutawassitah.). Memandulkan juga hukumnya harus mengelakkan maslahah ammah. Banyak juga la yang saya pelajari dan kehadiran Lulu Amani juga banyak membawa perubahan kepada kehidupan kami sekeluarga. Kami yakin apa yang Allah tentukan adalah yang terbaik untuk kami. dan Rezeki dan Rahmat hanya dari Nya.  kami bukan lah original cat lovers malah tak pernah ada pets pun tetapi kami belajar menyayangi Lulu Amani. kerana di situ juga mengajar kita bertanggungjawab. bela kucing rezeki bertambah ?  klik link tentang rezeki barakah.  ayat yang bold link tu ceramah berkaitan.

insta Lulu Amani oct 2016

Nasihat Pada Anak-Anakku, Ceritera Pohon Semalu

Ambillah iktibar dari cerita yang di sampaikan,

Pada suatu hari, Rasulullah s. a. w berjalan-jalan bersama puteri baginda,
Saidatina Fatimah r. a. Setibanya mereka berdua di bawah sebatang pohon 
tamar, Fatimah terpijak pohon semalu, kakinya berdarah lalu mengadu     
kesakitan.                                                             
                                                                         
Fatimah mengatakan kepada bapanya apalah gunanya pohon semalu itu berada
di situ dengan nada yang ceria. Rasulullah dengan tenang berkata kepada 
puteri kesayangannya itu bahawasanya pohon semalu itu amat berkait rapat
dengan wanita. Fatimah terkejut. Rasulullah menyambung kata-katanya lagi.
Para wanita hendaklah mengambil pengajaran daripada pohon semalu ini dari
4 aspek.                                                               
                                                                         
Pertama, pohon semalu akan kuncup apabila disentuh. Ini boleh diibaratkan

bahawa wanita perlu mempunyai perasaan malu (pada tempatnya).           
                                                                         
Kedua, semalu mempunyai duri yang tajam untuk mempertahankan dirinya. Oleh
itu, wanita perlu tahu mempertahankan diri dan maruah sebagai seorang   
wanita muslim.                                                         
                                                                         
Ketiga, semalu juga mempunyai akar tunjang yang sangat kuat dan mencengkam
bumi. Ini bermakna wanita solehah hendaklah mempunyai keterikatan yang 
sangat kuat dengan Allah Rabbul Alamin.                                 
                                                                         
Dan akhir sekali, semalu akan kuncup dengan sendirinya apabila senja   
menjelang. Oleh itu, para wanita sekalian, kembalilah ke rumahmu apabila
waktu semakin senja.                                                   
                                                                         
Ambillah pengajaran dari semalu walau pun ia hanya sepohon tumbuhan yang
kecil.                                                              

ihsan http://mumuyani.blogspot.com/2012_01_01_archive.html

Autism : What Is Autism Symptom TO Child

Autism
What is Autism? What is the symptom? I would like to share this info may it help some parents to understand a bit about the symptom.

The term autism comes from the word autos which mean self and irme  mean flow. Autism is a disorder of thought, communication, interpersonal relationships and behavior .

Factors Of Autism

•             The exact cause of autism is unknown.

•             Some theories say autism stems from

1.            Genetics

•             Babies born twins-one eggs are likely to autistic disorder.

2.            Environment

•             Effect of virus-rubella, toxo, herpes, is not nutritious diet, bleeding, poisoning effects: brain function of babies affected

•             Digestive problems. More than 60% of autistic children have a poor digestive system

•             Nervous breakdown - a failure of one of the brain function

Characteristics of Autism

1)            Communication and Language

o             Language development is slow or no

o             Looks like the hearing impaired and ignore what is said by others.

o             Failure to use the word, e.g. 'I', 'be' and have a problem saying the obvious.

o             The spoken word is not in accordance with the questions of others to him.

o             To imitate the verses or songs without understanding its meaning.

o             They just love to talk and sometimes talk too much in a particular topic.

o             Spontaneous conversation is rarely started, while their speech without meaning.

2)            Social Interaction

•             No eye contact

•             Love to be alone

•             Not engage in activities

•             They act like people do not listen.

•             Physical contact, such as touch, waving, gestures, smiles and is not used

3) Sensory Disorders 

• Sensitive to the touch          
• Do not like to hold or hug          
• Sensitive to loud sounds and covers their ears          
• Like kissing and licking toys or other objects 
• Less sensitive to the pain. 
• There is no fear of danger.

4) Pattern Of Playing

•             Do not like playing with friends .

•             Playing the odd way

•             Like the objects that rotate, like a fan.

•             Obsessed to an object to be carried everywhere

5) Conduct

•             Hyperactivity or hypo active

•             Perform the same actions or movements and repetitive as wiggle, patted the hand, circling,        

               walking, paced.

•             Do not like the changes.

•             Sometimes it can sit without any reaction or without doing something.

•             Typically display negative behavior.

6) Emotional

•             Raging without control if not dealt with entirely.

•             Often angry, laughing, and crying for no reason.

•             Attacking anyone nearby with his emotions when disturbed.

•             Sometimes injuring themselves or friends.

•             Not sympathy & empathy for others.

•             Significant discipline problems in children of this category, but they are less affected by praise or other social reinforces.  Time out is usually not an effective way to reduce negative behavior because they really like to be alone.

 Types of Autism

1.            Overweight (Excessive)

•             Children with autism show aggressive behavior.

2.  Reduced (Deficit)

•             Children with autism show passive behavior

DIETARY

•             Individuals who suffer from autism are likely to have difficulty digesting certain proteins such as    gluten.

•             Scientific studies in the United States and England have found a very high level of peptide in the content of the urine of children suffering from autism. This may be due to incomplete digestion of peptides from foods containing gluten and casein.

•             Gluten can be obtained from wheat, oat and rye

•             casein was obtained from dairy ingredients

 Incomplete digestion of peptide and peptide may lead to excess absorption delay  in  bio-chemical processes and neuroregulatori brain, which interfere with brain function

•             Until now there has been no information on why these proteins cannot be digested.

•             So how to solve the problem of neurological and gastrointestinal damage was only to exclude proteins from the diet of children diagnosed with autism.

Suitable material:

•             Brown Rice Flour - Basic Body / Green Gourmet

•             Potato starch - Green Gourmet

•             Tapioca Starch

•             Arrowroot flour

•             Xanthum gum - Green Gourmet

•             Aluminum-free baking powder - Green Gourmet

•             Rice Milk

•             Milk-free margarine / milk free margarine - available at most supermarkets

•             "Vita Soy" - margarine from soy oil

•             Flax-seed meal - to replace margarine

•             Gluten-free sweets

•             tamari sauce - to replace the soy sauce (wheat and alcohol-free check)

•             "Gorilla Munch" - gluten-free cereal suggestions

•             carob or chocolate chips cookies

•             biscuits "burbone" from Tesco in the UK

•             "Vance Darifree" - to replace milk

•             Pineapple jam - can be made with pineapple and honey

•             Spaghetti rice @ corn - from Basic Body

•             brown rice, wild rice, bee hoon brown rice - from Green Gourmet & Body Basics.

•             Fried chicken - use carotene oil & rice flour

The diagnosis from birth until  5 years

                 

            Age 0-6 months

• Baby seems about to cry too quiet
• Very sensitive, rapid disturbed / undisturbed
• Motion of the foot & hand-over, especially when taking a bath
• Not "exhaustive babbling"
• No social smile at age 10 weeks
• Motor development was normal

  6-12 months

•             The baby is quiet and rarely seen crying

•             Too sensitive

•             Hand & foot movement is excessive

•             It is difficult to cuddle / support

•             Not exhaustive babbling

•             Biting the hand & body others excessively

•             There is no social smile

•             Difficult to look at the unknown

         Motor development was normal

               

12-2 years

•             Rigid when cuddle

•             Did not respond in the normal game responded by normal children

•             Not saying a word

•             Not interested in dolls

•             Noting his own hands

•             Start to look gross & fine motor development through the experience of the ordinary.

•             May not be able to receive liquid food.

               

2-3 years

•             Do not like socializing

•             Seeing people as "objects"

•             Limited eye contact

•             Attracted to the ordinary and preferred only

•             Rigid when cuddle

4-5 years

•             Strange noises (high or flat)

•             Self harm

Thanks to Friends who love to share this great info for our knowledge. May we have the same love to autism child.

ADD & ADHD : Hyperactive Child Disorder

What is ADD and ADHD behavior?. Why That person is acting strange?. They might be having this symptom.

A) Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)

is the behavior of children who show their lack of concentration on something

Features of the ADD Child

-Often fail to give careful attention
-does not comply with the instructions and failed to complete school work
-Problem to organize tasks and activities
-wanted to get a sense of completion when making an assignment.
-avoid, dislike, or objected to perform a task
-Always losing things
-Easy to change focus
-Easy to forget

B) Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

is a neurobehavioral developmental disorder.

ADHD children often show behaviors that are found in two main categories:

1) Hyperactivity
-Frequent moving hands or feet
-floppy seat.
-Always leave the seat while in class.
-Always running here or there to love or to climb
-Often have difficulty playing or doing leisure activities quietly.
-Still a lot of talking
-Often active


2) Impulsive behavior
-Always give complete answers before the questions raised
-Lack of patient and encounter problems when they queue
-Often interfere with or interrupt conversations or activities of others.
-Often make wrong judgments and prone to accidents



Valid Cause ADD or ADHD

1. Neurological factors
     imbalances or lack of neurotransmitter chemicals to help connect the messages through the brain to help a person focus, drive and monitor the activities of their motivation

2. Toxic factor
   - Lead poisoning in the blood serum of infants
   - Food additives - color additives and preservatives

3. Genetic factors
   - 25 percent to 35 percent of ADD or ADHD is genetically inherited by both parents or other relatives

4. Excessive sugar intake

5. Drugs and medicines in excess



The  Treatment

1. medications

It have been found to have some positive short term benefits in dealing with the symptoms of ADD & ADHD
But All of Them have potentially harmful side effects.
Standard and Poor medications Ritalin, Adderall and Concerta (banned in Canada).
Dexedrine is typically prescribed to patients who do not respond well to Ritalin.

Pharmacotherapy

    Methylphenidate (MPH).
    Desipramine.
    Dextroamphetamine.
    Pemoline.
    


2. Therapy

focusing more useful to their daily work and interaction with other children.Psychosocial treatment of ADHD has included a number of behavioral strategies such as contingency management such as those utilising; point/token reward systems, timeout, response cost. Clinical behavior therapy (parent, teacher, or both are taught to use contingency management procedures), and cognitive-behavioral treatment (e.g., self-monitoring, verbal self-instruction, problem-solving strategies, self-reinforcement). Cognitive-behavioral treatment has not been found to yield beneficial effects in children withADHD. In contrast, clinical behavior therapy, parent training, and contingency management have produced beneficial effects.




ADD & ADHD Diet

food allergies and nutritional deficiencies
Sugar
soft drinks
sugary cereals or
chocolate
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First, what NOT to eat for TWO WEEKS:

1) NO Dairy PRODUCTS, especially  cow's milk. This is the single most IMPORTANT restrictions. Instead try Almond milk, Rice milk, or Better Than Milk. Drink water instead of milk. In fact, drink lots of water. The brain is about 80% water, and increasing your water intake to 7 to 10 glasses per day might be helpful all by itself. Sodas, Gatorade, Teas,Ice's, etc., Do not count as water. Water counts as water.
2) NO YELLOW FOODS. Especially Corn or Squash. Bananas are white. Do not eat the peel.
3) NO JUNK FOODS. If it comes in a cellophane wrapper, do not eat it.
4) NO FRUIT juices. Too much sugar content. One small glass of apple juice has the sugar content of eight apples. Later on you can have juice, but dilute it with water 50/50.
5) CUT SUGAR INTAKE BY 90%. If you can, cut it down to zero. Sugar is in just about everything, but give it a try. Do your best without going crazy.
6) CUT BY 90% chocolate. No more than a single piece, once a week.
7) NO NutraSweet. None. Period.
8) NO processed MEATS and NO MSG. Only get meats with labels That say, "Turkey and Water," etc. If the meat has chemicals listed That you can not pronounce, do not buy it.
9) Fried FOODS CUT BY 90%.
10) AVOID FOOD COLORINGS WHENEVER POSSIBLE. See if your child is sensitive to any particular colors, such as Reds, Yellows, etc. For now, though, avoid all if possible.

Features by Age Level

Early child-

- A robust level of activity
- Talking is not stopping
- Difficulty focusing
- It's hard to play quietly or secretly
- Impulsive and easily distracted
- Low achievers in academics.


Middle Child-

- Restless extreme
- Difficult to sit in place
- Default in the work and do not update
- Failure to follow instructions
- Failed to create assignments
- Low in academic achievement.



Adolescent-

- Can not sit still and constantly feel impatient.
- Difficult to engage in any activity
- Is often forgetful and unable to concentrate
- No patient in the work
- Often involved in dangerous activities-Have low academic performance



Adult-

- Always restless and agitated and could not sit still
- Difficult to engage in activities such as sitting.
- Frequent changes from one activity to another activity which is not complete
- Often distracting.
- Often trying to escape from the tasks that have little spontaneous movement.
- Difficulty in communication
- Frequent changes in employment.
- Difficulty controlling anger
- Working memory is weak.


Usually also have other disorders.
26% have another MP (later development, autistic)
43% had mental problems and emotional distress.
20-40% of serious antisocial disorder
29-30%-dyslexic
Now the population of children with ADHD & ADD is estimated to exceed 7 million people worldwide


When we understand the problems due to those ADD and ADHD person we can understand why he is so finicky. so do not scold them
If what they have done is wrong. we must teach them to make things right.


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Six Type Of Medication Needed When Having A Baby

Oh my, the baby is sick. This is a normal situation faced by most parents.A child immunisation is in growing up process. So it's easily for them to get infected.Even we try hard to avoid it sometimes things is inevitable. What's is your preparation having a baby in a house to overcome this situation. I am not a doctor but reading article on this advice is valuable. The article was written by a paediatrician. According to the article there are 6 type of medicine we should kept by having a baby in a house. And the medication is easy to get at the nearest pharmacy. 

1. Pain Release/fever For a 6 months old and below acetaminophen/Panadol syrup is safest medication for them to release pain or fever. Avoid giving Ibuprofen unless advice by a doctor. Because ibuprofen effect the metabolism of kidney. An example brands is panadol syrup 

2. Antihistamine Oral Effective to cure running nose or itchy eyes from allergy or to cure the reflect of allergy to other medication. This medication can cause doziness. Find out more about this medication here http://www.allergyescape.com/best-antihistamines.html 3. Saline Nose Drop/Nasal spray When they are having a difficulty to breath due to nose blocked (snuffles) Due to mucus collect in nose.Drop of this salt water make them easy to breath. 4. Electrolyte Remedy re hydration solution can solve a dehydration problem such as vomiting and diarrhea. The medication usually is an energy drink contain of sugar,salt,mineral and others.

5. Hydrocortisone Cream An anti inflammation cream that can be used for light rashes skin to eczema or insect bites. But it is better to consult a paedetrician if it is a cause looks like rashes for we afarid it might be impetigo . A light rashes can be treated with calamine lotion http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calamine 6. Antibiotik Balm. To avoid virus/bacteria infection on small injury. 

To all of my friends out there I hope this info can benefit us on growing up our babies. And remember we have to pay an extra attention to babies. If you would love to know more about the medication ad way to use it visit this website http://www.nlm.nih.gov

IS IT PARENT OF A STUPID CHILD?

Hi parents, have you ever heard this phrases “stupid child, I didn’t teach you that” or something like this “Dumb, why don’t you stop crying”. And many more negative words while scolding a child. I don’t really blame you guys because sometimes we can’t control our emotion when we are tired, stress, fatigue and those words came out from our mouth unintentionally. But try avoiding using harsh or negative words because the child is in a learning process. They might imitate us. As parent we should remind ourselves we are their role model. You know that 80% of water contain in our body and how the molecule can be affected by sound and words. This had been explained by Dr Emoto and also included sometimes ago in this blog. No matter what stupid things done by our child they are in the learning state and we as parent also still learning. They’re still lot more to learn about life and the thing is it will never ends.
If we feel that our child are dumb, they are the dummies well actually we are dumber. Just think back when we are their age, are we as as smart as today. And for today are we that smart? What we should do is teach our child to do things the correct way, guide them not scolding with a harsh words.
Children are our future, what type of future do we want? In life we learn lot of thing from mistake. Mistake don’t make us stupid, it progress us to think. When parent overcome a mistake from reiterate we are actually progressing in our learning state. Creating a development for our future.
The analogy is if we are parent of our child than we are also a child to our parent. If we fell that we don’t do well in our life should we blame our parent for not raising us well? And so is our child would they blame us for not raising them well if they don’t do great in their life. So it’s either we are parent of the stupid (our child) or we are the stupid as a parent thinking that we are better than our child. We have to learn together as family for a better life.
From parent to parent have you come across this situation where by some other parents telling you this, “don’t do this, or your child will... blaa… bla…. Bla….And you thought well they know a lot, that’s a great parenting tips, perfect parenting are they? Is it a positive parenting way? Well as for me don’t imitate others. Be ourselves in a positive way. Some advice or tips can be taken but not all are suite with your parenting way. Be wise, our lifestyle and necessity are not the same for all parents. We as a human are different in our own way. The way of parenting may be adaptable for certain family as it suit with their life style, the way of their thinking and more. But may not suit with our life style and thinking. We are perfectly parenting in our own way as we know ourselves better and we know our family better. As long as we are parenting the positive way.

The conclusion is there’s no stupidity in positive parenting act. We have our own believes and principal that lead us with guide to live in this world, use it wisely. Follow it and we are parenting the right way.
I am not saying don’t ever study or taken advice from other parents or classes or books; learn from it and adapt what is suite with your parenting way. Don’t suffer yourself for something that you can’t meet.
Well others may have their own idea and this is my idea. No human are perfect and we ought to lots more of parenting mistake as we can’t see the future. Nobody knows what true or not in future so learn to know yourself and your family. I am still learning and so do my family. Happy parenting folks. Love our family, our children the legacy of our future. Want them to do the best start learning to the best for yourself.

Baby Feeder easy Baby Milk Warmer Sleekly By IIamo

IIAMO flow

Hi too all parent. I am having a problem here. My new baby is 3 month old now. My wife now have to start working.Since birth my baby is breastfeeding.Since my wife have to start working so we have to teach her
to feeding using feeder bottle. The problem is even she still a child she have her preference. she does not want to feed using bottle. On the first day my wife start working my mother have to feed her using
spoon. She don't want to feed either using bottle nor syringe. Actually we have prepare for this situation . we have bought different kind of feeder from lot of brand such as NUK,Avent,Bumble bee and NUBY.All those feeder have different teat with anti colic and no BPA (Bis phenol A) features.Some teat with a short neck ,long neck and many type.I figure that the problem is not because of the bottle but the teat.Today we bought a new feeder by MAM.Changing the teat

type for my baby.MAM designers have created a silicone teat which babies instinctively like.And now the problem solve.Do you know that it is not good to boil the breastfeeding bottle?. Because of the BPA effect.
While browsing through Internet searching for the correct bottle with my wife we stumble into this attractive feeder by IIAMO. The product IIAMO GO self warm bottle design by one of the famous designer MR KARIM RASHID.IIamo was founded by RASMUS SCHMIEGELOW and NIKOLAJ LEONHARD-HJORTH both are parent at first having the same problem like us.Finding a feeder so baby would want to feed.
What's great about the bottle is IIAMO GO feeder came with a self warm feature.So no hustle on warming up the milk and no BPA cause for sure..Even the bottle itself is anti BPA.And the bottle design sleekly looks came with an attractive color and  it is stunning.

But IIAMO product only distributed in Denmark.We been looking for it through the net in Malaysian couldn't find any. I try to buy from eBay but the nearest is in Australia but they will not ship outside.

See how the self warm features work here ....IIAMO GO

Distributor in Malaysia :
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or
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gps : 5.961906, 116.096714

Kiddilicious 
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Lorong Citymall, Jalan Lintas
88300 Kota Kinabalu,
Sabah, Malaysia
Tel/Fax: 088-484770
Email: kiddilicious.my@gmail.com

looks futuristic isn't it.stunning colors.Find out the distributor above as per comment.

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Parent And Child, Limits Your Computer And Internet Usage

Living in this new era everything is moving on as fast as it could be. Now is the world of the computer, the internet and all type of gadget. Parents are exposing this new age thing to their children as early as possible. It would also help their children in growing development and some of it helps lessen parenting task. Include me, my 6 year old daughter have been exposed to the usage of computer since 2 years old. At the beginning stage is more likely showing a video. Past over the time child are more likely know how to use a simple application of the computer such as playing games and playing their movie. Now my daughters   know how   to browse the internet. Well surely there will be pro and con on exposing the internet to a child. Negatively because of exploited and unrated website.   But not to worry as the expert and application have their own security to avoid this negative effect.

What I would like to discuss is the computer and internet negative effect on health. This health effect problem can crucial a child and parent. Do we know that sitting to long using a computer and internet can cause death? You should know about this health effect, a passage from an informative e mail I received.

 Lately you hear some webmasters attacked by various diseases so that there are so critical to have them admitted to hospital for monitoring his health. In fact some of them have reached the critical stage until the attack of angina stroke.

Many people still do not realize that sitting too long at the computer or working for hours passively on a chair to make the muscles of our body feels stiff, hard and painful eye. In fact, other than minor complaints such other hidden threats that pose a risk to health.

New Zealand Medical Journal in a recent issue reported a study of the New Zealand Institute of Medical Research showed that office workers who spend too long sitting at their desks a higher risk of blood clots. Researchers found that one third of patients admitted to hospital suffering from blood vein thrombosis (DVT) or blood clot, are those who spend hours at a computer.

Disease Deep vein Thrombosis (DVT) is caused by blood clots that cause the blood vessels, especially veins in the thighs and calves are blocked. This occurs because blood flow is not a result of a passive activity and rest is redundant.

This will be exacerbated when the room is occupied by air-conditioned cool air which accelerates the rate of blood clots, especially in the legs.

Lead researcher Professor Richard Beasley said some office workers who suffer from the problem sitting in front of a computer screen for more than 10 hours a day. This problem is usually faced by workers in the information technology industry and call centers.

Approximately 34 percent of the 62 samples that had blood clots are those who are in a long time working with the seats, while the other 21 percent is composed of patients who travel long-haul flying, as quoted by AFP.

 DVT itself is by health experts is the formation of a blood clot in the artery, most often found in the foot. The clot can move to the heart, lungs or brain and can cause pain in the chest, shortness of breath or even death from a heart attack or stroke.

Pulmonary Consultant, Institute of Respiratory Medicine, Dr Ashari Yunus said the blood clot came from the legs, but can also originate from blood vessels in the arm, but the right heart catheter tip is placed in blood vessels. In extremely rare cases, fat or tissue from the tumor or a group of bacteria may be gathered in the arteries of the lungs.

Why pulmonary embolism is occurs?

Humans have a pair of lungs. Consistent blood pumped from the right heart to the lungs and back into the left heart. In the lungs, the blood takes oxygen and removes carbon dioxide, metabolic waste.

Arteries carry oxygen-rich blood throughout the body. Blood vessels are less oxygen carrying blood back to heart. Blood clots that occur in blood vessels to flow into the blood vessels in the heart right before going into the arteries of the lungs, there restrictions may apply.

Restrictions may occur in small arteries, but the lungs are very 'fragile' because all the blood in the body through the lungs each time round. Often, the risk of blood clots to form and spread throughout the lungs.

Symptoms:

1. Quickly exhausted.

2. Breathlessness.

3. Chest pain.

4. Pulse rate.

5. Weakness in the legs.

6. Poor appetite.

7. Cough.

8. Shortness of breath either at rest or active.

 How You Can Prevent:

1. Wearing a sock to prevent blood clots in blood vessels (deep vein thrombosis). It serves to grip the skin and vein to draw blood does not stagnate.

2. Multiply movement, especially in the legs.

3. Avoid drinking Ice.

4. Avoid opening the air conditioning was too cold.

5. Always drink the hot water.

6. Exercise.

Treatment:

Usually patients are treated with drugs that stop and slow down blood clots, such as heparin and warfarin. Both help prevent existing clots from becoming larger and stop the formation of new blood clots.

If pulmonary embolism suffered life-threatening, the doctor will usually recommend therapy thrombolytic (remove blood clots from the body with the enzyme systems that acts to solve).

So as the research told. Very scary indeed as we wouldn’t think it would be that crucial. It is advisable to limit the time of computer usage to your child. And also for parent limit your usage time.

I hope this article will help us towards a healthy family lifestyle

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Is It Anxiety Effect On My Child

Oh Nina my daughter my child .What is actually playing in the mind of Nina. She is now reached the age of 6 years. So she is growing up as i can recall.Looking up all the memories picture i had taken with her feels like only yesterday she was still small playing with me happily.

And now she has become an older sister to Nurdamia.I feel like she's now try to isolate further herself from her me her parent.Oh god another parenting issue i have to faced.Does she feels like me and my wife are lack of attention to her after her sister Nurdamia were born.I hope her anxiety does not exist. The fact is we were always try to become a parents that would  not neglect our family.I miss her so much.Like now she can easily sleep at my mother-in-law  without me and my wife beside her.If before she will never sleep well if she found out we were not around. When I asked she said "babah have mommy and sister".
Sadly for me to hear it,sincerely our love are equal to both of them. Perhaps this process of Nina developments are better as our first child.She must be brave so she can take care her of her sister afterwards. Maybe I'm too emotional. Should I realized that my daughter will grow up and I need to provide space for
her to be more independent.How should I know that Nina is not having a symptoms of anxiety? I fear her behavior is a result of anxiety symptom exist in her as she saw her mother are paying more attention to Nurdamia. Only God knows that for sure. As a parents what I can do is to show the same attention to all my child.
Anxiety is a general term for several disorders that cause nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worrying.
There are over 100 symptoms of anxiety.Because each person has a unique chemical make up, the type, number, intensity, and frequency of anxiety symptoms will vary from person to person. For example, one person may have just one mild anxiety symptom, whereas another may have all anxiety symptoms and to great severity. All combinations are common.What best described in child is anxious children are distressed by their inability to cope.Give the wide range of stressors associated with growing up child,It is important for the child
having an appropriate skills in coping with anxiety and other difficult emotion. As a parent we should be alert to know if this happen and act responsibly with a proper guidance and support.
Find out more about children anxiety here...........
http://www.childanxiety.net/

I stumble this e-book recently  titles  "keys to parenting your anxious child"
This e-book was written by Katharina Manassis, (MD).She is a child psychiatrist. It is about how can parents recognize anxieties that affect their child's happiness and well being, and how can they help their child overcome them?
And lots more stuff inside.Great e-book well made as it is also from compilation of other parents issues.

If you interested you can read the ebook here...(Keys To Parenting Your Anxious Child)

Hope i can learned lot's of things so i can become a responsible parent.