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Saturday, October 30, 2010

IS IT PARENT OF A STUPID CHILD?

Hi parents, have you ever heard this phrases “stupid child, I didn’t teach you that” or something like this “Dumb, why don’t you stop crying”. And many more negative words while scolding a child. I don’t really blame you guys because sometimes we can’t control our emotion when we are tired, stress, fatigue and those words came out from our mouth unintentionally. But try avoiding using harsh or negative words because the child is in a learning process. They might imitate us. As parent we should remind ourselves we are their role model. You know that 80% of water contain in our body and how the molecule can be affected by sound and words. This had been explained by Dr Emoto and also included sometimes ago in this blog. No matter what stupid things done by our child they are in the learning state and we as parent also still learning. They’re still lot more to learn about life and the thing is it will never ends.
If we feel that our child are dumb, they are the dummies well actually we are dumber. Just think back when we are their age, are we as as smart as today. And for today are we that smart? What we should do is teach our child to do things the correct way, guide them not scolding with a harsh words.
Children are our future, what type of future do we want? In life we learn lot of thing from mistake. Mistake don’t make us stupid, it progress us to think. When parent overcome a mistake from reiterate we are actually progressing in our learning state. Creating a development for our future.
The analogy is if we are parent of our child than we are also a child to our parent. If we fell that we don’t do well in our life should we blame our parent for not raising us well? And so is our child would they blame us for not raising them well if they don’t do great in their life. So it’s either we are parent of the stupid (our child) or we are the stupid as a parent thinking that we are better than our child. We have to learn together as family for a better life.
From parent to parent have you come across this situation where by some other parents telling you this, “don’t do this, or your child will... blaa… bla…. Bla….And you thought well they know a lot, that’s a great parenting tips, perfect parenting are they? Is it a positive parenting way? Well as for me don’t imitate others. Be ourselves in a positive way. Some advice or tips can be taken but not all are suite with your parenting way. Be wise, our lifestyle and necessity are not the same for all parents. We as a human are different in our own way. The way of parenting may be adaptable for certain family as it suit with their life style, the way of their thinking and more. But may not suit with our life style and thinking. We are perfectly parenting in our own way as we know ourselves better and we know our family better. As long as we are parenting the positive way.
The conclusion is there’s no stupidity in positive parenting act. We have our own believes and principal that lead us with guide to live in this world, use it wisely. Follow it and we are parenting the right way.
I am not saying don’t ever study or taken advice from other parents or classes or books; learn from it and adapt what is suite with your parenting way. Don’t suffer yourself for something that you can’t meet.
Well others may have their own idea and this is my idea. No human are perfect and we ought to lots more of parenting mistake as we can’t see the future. Nobody knows what true or not in future so learn to know yourself and your family. I am still learning and so do my family. Happy parenting folks. Love our family, our children the legacy of our future. Want them to do the best start learning to the best for yourself.

Sunday, October 24, 2010

What She Has Whooping Cough Or Croup ?

It has almost been  a week now and i feel sorry for her, my baby girl. So pity looking at her coughing like an adult. she's only 3months old but have to feel the whooping cough pain.Although this condition is something unwanted even we tried to avoid every cause it is uncontrollable.She still  have it almost a week now. We had taken her to the paediatrician and taken a prescription of antibiotic .This whooping cough or croup makes her lost the lovely sleep and feeding appetite. She even vomit sometimes after feeds.

Whooping cough or best known as pertussis ( the microorganism name ) happen when the bacteria infect of the  below airway breathing parts  .The cough sounds persistently and like the person are chocking.Usually child are immune to this symptom after taken immunisation injection between 6 months to six years old.Pertussis will cause symptom of  flu fever for a week or two and after that the cough be getting worsen and a child will be having a fast breathing.This can cause lack of oxygen intake in inhale process. Pertussis can also lead to seizure and encephalopathy (brain inflammation) in the young. Actually pertussis can be severe not only to a child but also to adults as the persistent coughing can cause lost of breath.Seek for doctor advice if you having a cough more than 2 weeks or have consistent for longer period of time. As for a child bring them immediately to paediatrician . An antibiotic treatment might work out for the case. If it still persistent get an extra treatment for our love one.
baby nurina
ahhchumm...
Another type of coughing is Croup ( also known as laryngotracheobronchitis). It sounds like barking cough and hoarseness.It is a virus infection of the upper airway.It started with flu fever and worsen during night. Croup usually gone after a few days and need not a special treatment.Croup can be recognized by inhale hot water steamed and then stay in a cold place.Some specialist believe that  by expansion and contraction of airway can resolved cough. If it doesn't than it is better to seek for treatment to avoid pneumonia or asthma.

Now it has been for two days my baby taken the antibiotic treatment and her condition looks getting better . We hope it is not something severe infecting her.Although I still stay late up at night to observe her condition.

Monday, October 18, 2010

Baby Feeder easy Baby Milk Warmer Sleekly By IIamo


IIAMO flow
Hi too all parent. I am having a problem here. My new baby is 3 month old now. My wife now have to start working.Since birth my baby is breastfeeding.Since my wife have to start working so we have to teach her
to feeding using feeder bottle. The problem is even she still a child she have her preference. she does not want to feed using bottle. On the first day my wife start working my mother have to feed her using
spoon. She don't want to feed either using bottle nor syringe. Actually we have prepare for this situation . we have bought different kind of feeder from lot of brand such as NUK,Avent,Bumble bee and NUBY.All those feeder have different teat with anti colic and no BPA (Bis phenol A) features.Some teat with a short neck ,long neck and many type.I figure that the problem is not because of the bottle but the teat.Today we bought a new feeder by MAM.Changing the teat
type for my baby.MAM designers have created a silicone teat which babies instinctively like.And now the problem solve.Do you know that it is not good to boil the breastfeeding bottle?. Because of the BPA effect.
While browsing through Internet searching for the correct bottle with my wife we stumble into this attractive feeder by IIAMO. The product IIAMO GO self warm bottle design by one of the famous designer MR KARIM RASHID.IIamo was founded by RASMUS SCHMIEGELOW and NIKOLAJ LEONHARD-HJORTH both are parent at first having the same problem like us.Finding a feeder so baby would want to feed.
What's great about the bottle is IIAMO GO feeder came with a self warm feature.So no hustle on warming up the milk and no BPA cause for sure..Even the bottle itself is anti BPA.And the bottle design sleekly looks came with an attractive color and  it is stunning.

But IIAMO product only distributed in Denmark.We been looking for it through the net in Malaysian couldn't find any. I try to buy from eBay but the nearest is in Australia but they will not ship outside.

See how the self warm features work here ....IIAMO GO

Distributor in Malaysia :
http://fionathalia.blogspot.com

or
 google maps for kiddilicious.

gps : 5.961906, 116.096714

Kiddilicious 
M-0-6, Ground Floor, CityMall
Lorong Citymall, Jalan Lintas
88300 Kota Kinabalu,
Sabah, Malaysia
Tel/Fax: 088-484770
Email: kiddilicious.my@gmail.com



looks futuristic isn't it.stunning colors.Find out the distributor above as per comment.
click the link iiamo go

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Food Allergy And Your Child

Do we know that we can be allergic to foods.It is the same to our child.When food allergy happen to a child rashes will appear on your child body,they will vomiting,feeling discomfort and crying non stop..
Parents need to be aware as food allergy might happen when we start introducing solid foods to the child nutrition.Sometimes food allergy are not so serious. sometimes this allergy tend to disappear when a child grow.If allergy towards cow's milk, soy and wheat.
damia
Usually it will the disappears when a child growing old.This is different when food allergic happen due to nuts, seeds and seafood as it might happens for a longer period of times .it is advisable to start introducing solid food in your child dietary when they reach 6 month year old.Allergies symptom caused by histamine (a chemical that is released from cell under the skin, nose,eyes where it start feeling itchy.The reaction cause irritation to the skin, swelling of the mouth, vomiting and diarrhea and an inefficient and runny nose. Severe reactions called anaphylaxis such as hard to breath due to swell in throat.Non tolerate of lactose causes sensitive stomach and intestines due to the body can not assimilate sugar found in milk.Bloated stomach and diarrhea may occur until the body to remove the food but no severe reaction of the immune system will minimize the risk of it happens.Report shows dietary allergies in children are not associated with maternal diet or delay the introduction to solid food . Recommended by experts you need to breastfeed your child
from birth up to 6 month old.common types of allergies such as nuts, eggs, and cow milk. Serious allergic reactions are like seafood, soy, fish, wheat and sesame.
If your child experience a serious allergic reaction immediately see the doctor.
So at the time parent start introducing solid foods to a child the dietary we should be observed,monitor how the food been given is it raw or cooks and type of foods given.Avoid risk to your child's food allergy by knowing the type of nutrition that cause allergies to your child.

Monday, October 11, 2010

Cosy Place Restaurant Stress Release by Dinner

wife and daughters
Do you know that having a comfort dinner can release your stress and fatigue after a hard day? . Having a hard day for both of us managing parenting skill while both of our daughter where sick,today they are getting better.So fatigue so we decided to treat ourselves for a dinner.Great things to do releasing all the stress is having a fine dining in a cosy place. Well sure fine dining need extra budget.
It's all worth it having it with the one you love. Need a dining place not so cramped and feels like dining at home we choose this nice cosy restaurant.Located just near by our house.
First impression is great . Stepping inside feels like entering an English type of home. With a nice music been played. This is what we are looking for a cosy ambiance and versatile choice of food.
nina
my daughter watching the chef cooks
Need to mentioned that me and my wife aren't so faddy. Cosy Place Restaurant located in jalan wangsa delima 2A, suburban centre 111,section 5 wangsa maju,k.l.
This is our first time here in this restaurant and the welcome are warm.As stepping inside the first glance you can see the kitchen visible through a window glass showing tidiness
and cleanliness of their kitchen and also the chef and co chef workers.So not to be hesitate.We choose to sit near the fire place a section so comfort and cozy.My wife having a Singapore fried mee hoon while my elder daughter as always fish N chip.Fast service and excellent by the waiter,having no trouble with the baby as she feel comfort we have our dinner comfortably.Not to mentioned the prices are appropriate.
This restaurant will be another favorite in our family dinner place after DOME and  sakura crystal restaurant. To all the waiter and the owner thank you for a nice dinner and cosy place.
My next plan is to bring my sister here having their fine BBQ beef ribs at lower price.
from phone

Cosy Place Restaurant

Setapak 27-29, Jalan Wangsa Delima 2A, KL Suburban Centre III, Section 5, Wangsa Maju, Kuala Lumpur
53300
Malaysia
GPS : 3.199374, 101.744578

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Oil, Fats In Parenting Dietary

Oils make us fat? that's a fact. We have been told to reduce taking oily food or eliminate oils or fats intake
in our diet to maintain good health and stay slim.Some of us did not bother so much about their figure but surely they want a good health.As parent we would want
to avoid obesity in our child. Obesity does happen to child if we as a parent did not controlled their diet. There is a significant increase in overweight cases in the world.
Want to know either you are part of it? You can calculate your own BMI ( body mass index ) here http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/.
The true story of fats is that it is not totally bad. Fats are compound built from fatty acids. There are fats from good oils that a body needs in order to maintain optimum health and prevent illnesses.
So if we think we prevents fats from oil to our child is good what about he good parts of fats. Healing fats are needed to perform many crucial cell functions. healing fats help to support immune function,improve skin and hair condition,reduce blood cholesterol ( so i thought fats increase blood cholesterol,so totally prevent oily foods ), maintain blood pressure,
prevent risk of heart attack and stroke, maintain healthy joint function,protect body organs,help brain and nerves transmission as well as hormone production. Healing fats benefit are almost endless.
Lack of healing fats causes frequent flu,cough and cold,hormonal imbalance ,emotional problem,metabolism disorder,skin and hair disorder ( eczema psoriasis,poor would healing and hair loss), low energy level, weakened vision and also poor learning ability.
What best to get this healing fats ? take a natural healing oil as parts of wholesome plant based diet. Get a plant based oil as part of you and your family diet.
Coconut oil is one of good oil with rich healing fats.  Put it in your diet list . So even eat fat, still look thin. Another plant based is like a corn  oil or sunflower oil, wheatgerm oil,flax seed oil that can help hormonal balance and also EPO ( evening primrose oil) effective for weight reduction.
Virgin coconut oil has been called the healthy dietary oil on earth. It can boost immunity, lowers cholesterol contain,regulate blood sugar minimising insulin spikes and fats storage,improve insulin sensitivity and glucose tolerance avoiding diabetics and enhance nutrients absorption.
It is good to know what the best oil to include i our dietary rights. so start it earlier with our self and earlier for our child. Happy cooking.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Parent And Child, Limits Your Computer And Internet Usage

Living in this new era everything is moving on as fast as it could be. Now is the world of the computer, the internet and all type of gadget. Parents are exposing this new age thing to their children as early as possible. It would also help their children in growing development and some of it helps lessen parenting task. Include me, my 6 year old daughter have been exposed to the usage of computer since 2 years old. At the beginning stage is more likely showing a video. Past over the time child are more likely know how to use a simple application of the computer such as playing games and playing their movie. Now my daughters   know how   to browse the internet. Well surely there will be pro and con on exposing the internet to a child. Negatively because of exploited and unrated website.   But not to worry as the expert and application have their own security to avoid this negative effect.
What I would like to discuss is the computer and internet negative effect on health. This health effect problem can crucial a child and parent. Do we know that sitting to long using a computer and internet can cause death? You should know about this health effect, a passage from an informative e mail I received.

 Lately you hear some webmasters attacked by various diseases so that there are so critical to have them admitted to hospital for monitoring his health. In fact some of them have reached the critical stage until the attack of angina stroke.

Many people still do not realize that sitting too long at the computer or working for hours passively on a chair to make the muscles of our body feels stiff, hard and painful eye. In fact, other than minor complaints such other hidden threats that pose a risk to health.

New Zealand Medical Journal in a recent issue reported a study of the New Zealand Institute of Medical Research showed that office workers who spend too long sitting at their desks a higher risk of blood clots. Researchers found that one third of patients admitted to hospital suffering from blood vein thrombosis (DVT) or blood clot, are those who spend hours at a computer.
Disease Deep vein Thrombosis (DVT) is caused by blood clots that cause the blood vessels, especially veins in the thighs and calves are blocked. This occurs because blood flow is not a result of a passive activity and rest is redundant.
This will be exacerbated when the room is occupied by air-conditioned cool air which accelerates the rate of blood clots, especially in the legs.
Lead researcher Professor Richard Beasley said some office workers who suffer from the problem sitting in front of a computer screen for more than 10 hours a day. This problem is usually faced by workers in the information technology industry and call centers.

Approximately 34 percent of the 62 samples that had blood clots are those who are in a long time working with the seats, while the other 21 percent is composed of patients who travel long-haul flying, as quoted by AFP.


 DVT itself is by health experts is the formation of a blood clot in the artery, most often found in the foot. The clot can move to the heart, lungs or brain and can cause pain in the chest, shortness of breath or even death from a heart attack or stroke.
Pulmonary Consultant, Institute of Respiratory Medicine, Dr Ashari Yunus said the blood clot came from the legs, but can also originate from blood vessels in the arm, but the right heart catheter tip is placed in blood vessels. In extremely rare cases, fat or tissue from the tumor or a group of bacteria may be gathered in the arteries of the lungs.

Why pulmonary embolism is occurs?
Humans have a pair of lungs. Consistent blood pumped from the right heart to the lungs and back into the left heart. In the lungs, the blood takes oxygen and removes carbon dioxide, metabolic waste.
Arteries carry oxygen-rich blood throughout the body. Blood vessels are less oxygen carrying blood back to heart. Blood clots that occur in blood vessels to flow into the blood vessels in the heart right before going into the arteries of the lungs, there restrictions may apply.

Restrictions may occur in small arteries, but the lungs are very 'fragile' because all the blood in the body through the lungs each time round. Often, the risk of blood clots to form and spread throughout the lungs.
Symptoms:
1. Quickly exhausted.
2. Breathlessness.
3. Chest pain.
4. Pulse rate.
5. Weakness in the legs.
6. Poor appetite.
7. Cough.
8. Shortness of breath either at rest or active.

 How You Can Prevent:
1. Wearing a sock to prevent blood clots in blood vessels (deep vein thrombosis). It serves to grip the skin and vein to draw blood does not stagnate.
2. Multiply movement, especially in the legs.
3. Avoid drinking Ice.
4. Avoid opening the air conditioning was too cold.
5. Always drink the hot water.
6. Exercise.

Treatment:
Usually patients are treated with drugs that stop and slow down blood clots, such as heparin and warfarin. Both help prevent existing clots from becoming larger and stop the formation of new blood clots.
If pulmonary embolism suffered life-threatening, the doctor will usually recommend therapy thrombolytic (remove blood clots from the body with the enzyme systems that acts to solve).

So as the research told. Very scary indeed as we wouldn’t think it would be that crucial. It is advisable to limit the time of computer usage to your child. And also for parent limit your usage time.
I hope this article will help us towards a healthy family lifestyle
image from children learning tool http://software.banpro.net/


Monday, October 4, 2010

My Younger Brother Wed To His Love One

On 17 september Fahmi reza my younger brother finally wed to his love one Nurul Izni.  I was happy for him. This is his next stage in life where it will leads him next to become parent. Welcome to my world. Well for both of their parents happiness shows through their face on the day.
My brother , another journey for you in this life before another parenting stage where you have to learn more about responsibilities. you must remember from now on what ever your decision will effect both of you so be more compromise. Put away any anger and be a good husband.Wish you guys happiness.
On 19 september is the wedding ceremony in my parents house. This is the day where we siblings and the big family share the happiness with the weds couples. The weather was fine seems like a blessing.The one day ceremony makes a great memories to all of us will reminisce will be talking by my families.Thank you so much to all handing hand doing a great job,  to all my uncles and aunties families for making things  happening.And to all who came along on the wedding day thank you so much for brighter the ceremony.
Sharing our happiness

Friday, October 1, 2010

Is It Anxiety Effect On My Child

Oh Nina my daughter my child .What is actually playing in the mind of Nina. She is now reached the age of 6 years. So she is growing up as i can recall.Looking up all the memories picture i had taken with her feels like only yesterday she was still small playing with me happily.

And now she has become an older sister to Nurdamia.I feel like she's now try to isolate further herself from her me her parent.Oh god another parenting issue i have to faced.Does she feels like me and my wife are lack of attention to her after her sister Nurdamia were born.I hope her anxiety does not exist. The fact is we were always try to become a parents that would  not neglect our family.I miss her so much.Like now she can easily sleep at my mother-in-law  without me and my wife beside her.If before she will never sleep well if she found out we were not around. When I asked she said "babah have mommy and sister".
Sadly for me to hear it,sincerely our love are equal to both of them. Perhaps this process of Nina developments are better as our first child.She must be brave so she can take care her of her sister afterwards. Maybe I'm too emotional. Should I realized that my daughter will grow up and I need to provide space for
her to be more independent.How should I know that Nina is not having a symptoms of anxiety? I fear her behavior is a result of anxiety symptom exist in her as she saw her mother are paying more attention to Nurdamia. Only God knows that for sure. As a parents what I can do is to show the same attention to all my child.
Anxiety is a general term for several disorders that cause nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worrying.
There are over 100 symptoms of anxiety.Because each person has a unique chemical make up, the type, number, intensity, and frequency of anxiety symptoms will vary from person to person. For example, one person may have just one mild anxiety symptom, whereas another may have all anxiety symptoms and to great severity. All combinations are common.What best described in child is anxious children are distressed by their inability to cope.Give the wide range of stressors associated with growing up child,It is important for the child
having an appropriate skills in coping with anxiety and other difficult emotion. As a parent we should be alert to know if this happen and act responsibly with a proper guidance and support.
Find out more about children anxiety here...........
http://www.childanxiety.net/

I stumble this e-book recently  titles  "keys to parenting your anxious child"
This e-book was written by Katharina Manassis, (MD).She is a child psychiatrist. It is about how can parents recognize anxieties that affect their child's happiness and well being, and how can they help their child overcome them?
And lots more stuff inside.Great e-book well made as it is also from compilation of other parents issues.

If you interested you can read the ebook here...(Keys To Parenting Your Anxious Child)

Hope i can learned lot's of things so i can become a responsible parent.
nina & damia